Excellent article here for those of us faced with loved ones and friends who appear to be living in an alternate universe (especially if they’re lost in Trumpland): Gaslighting
Nothing much to add to this except that I’m currently wondering if we are all being gaslighted over the huge, really huge outrage regarding Trump’s “hot mike” remarks about sexually assaulting women.
Not that the remarks weren’t awful, but where was the gargantuan outrage when…oh, where do I start? At the moment Trump went up the down escalator? He said something about Mexicans being rapists, etc., that day. Yes, he did. A lot of his supporters are saying he was misquoted or it was taken out of context, which has become their go-to excuse every time Trump says something that people get upset about (lately there’s a new wrinkle: they just claim he never said any such thing at all even though he did so live on TV — gaslighting at its finest!). Or else they whine something about “political correctness” oppressing them — and then, when Trump threatens to sue someone who offended him, and/or his followers threaten violence toward anyone who is offended by Trump, it leaves us in the strange situation that Trump and his minions can say whatever they want, but the rest of us can’t. It’s the new political correctness, I guess, Trump-style. Welcome the bold new world, where everything is upside-down.
Back to the subject, darlings, I heard that escalator speech. That’s what he said: “Mexicans are rapists…” In spite of the continued attempts at editing the collective memory of that event, the fact remains that that’s what he said. No gaslighting allowed.
There was outrage at the remark, but it certainly didn’t stop his campaign. Since then there has been a new outrage almost every week, sometimes every day. So what’s different about this one? Why is this any worse than the other 300 or so outrages?
What I really can’t get through my head is the Republican gasps at his misogynous comments. They’re upset about something he said about women? Really?
(At this point I really must interject with Mitt Romney’s tone-deaf remark, “these are our wives, our daughters..” Fine if you’re talking to an audience of all men, or of women like the late Phyllis Shufly or whatever her name was, and all men; stupid if you’re talking on the subject of women to everybody, because everybody includes women, who make up more than half the population. Dummy, go back and read your binders of women or something.)
The party’s entire platform places women in danger in various ways, and Republican lawmakers across the nation continue to find new and improved ways of raising the danger level. That’s an established fact. So if they are going to play the outrage card to the hilt this time, over some misogynous remarks Trump made 10 years ago, (and has attempted to excuse by claiming that he’d heard far worse from Bill Clinton during golf outings), there has to be an underlying reason that has nothing to do with women.
Some have guessed that the Koch brothers are attempting to get Trump out of the way before election day so they can have their boy Pence in the oval office. Sounds plausible. Or maybe someone in the GOP finally recognized the very real danger of Trump’s Russian entanglements (the news of which came and went in about a week, without any effect whatsoever) and decided this was a good an excuse as any to try to force him out of the race.
Whatever the cause of the outrage, you can bet it has nothing much to do with Trump’s attitude toward women. Any claim to the contrary is just gaslighting, and I, for one, am getting damned sick and tired of it.
10/8/16 evening update:
it appears I’m on to something with my Pence guess: writing Pence’s name in
The Republicans are stuck with Trump; there’ll be no forcing him out over a (for the Republicans, fake) woman issue. All they have left is the futile gesture of writing Pence’s name in. Of course they would never consider voting for an actual woman as a viable alternative to Trump. Never. Which proves my point about Republican outrage over this particular issue.
So now I see the future clearly: he’ll just hang around and in a few days issue some fresh outrage, and all this woman bullshit will be forgotten — not just by him but by the rest of the Republicans. And if anyone dares bring this up in the future…well, you know, he didn’t say that.